There are few feelings that compare to the one you get when the guy you’re into bails on you. On one hand you want to be the cool, understanding chick that’s “totally okay” with him cancelling on you. On the other, you want to let him know that you’re upset with him, even if his reason for flaking is completely legitimate.
The big question here is, what do you text him when this happens? You may not realize it, but this is a make or break situation.
Before I share the texts you should be sending your guy, I want to hear your thoughts. If a guy bails on you, should you let him know you’re upset?
For those of you don’t know me, my name is Amy North, and I’m a relationship coach from the west coast of Canada, and I work with women to help then find and lock down the love they want and deserve. The reason I want to teach you what to text men who bail on you is because even though this doesn’t seem like a big deal, the message you send him will have a huge impact on whether or not he wants to see you again in the future.
Okay, now imagine this.
He replies to your text with a short, “Not a problem, you’re a good friend. Let’s catch up this weekend when you’re free. Drive safe!”
Reading this kind of message will have you swooning, and wishing you could be spending your night with him.
OR, he replied to your text saying, “Are you kidding me? That’s cool.”
The next thing you’ll want to do is to compose a positive text message that lets him know it’s fine that he can’t make it tonight – again, this is easier said than done, especially when you’re feeling disappointed.
So, why do you want him to think that you’re okay with him bailing? Well, there are two reasons.
The first is that it shows him you have other things going on in your life, so him not being able to see you isn’t that big a deal. Instead, you’ll happily carry on without him.
The second reason is that it shows him you’re level-headed and understanding. The kind of person who gets that sometimes life gets in the way of other plans, and that’s totally cool. Unlike the type of chick who loses her mind when things don’t go according to plan, because no man wants to be with someone like that! He’ll not only appreciate how mature you’re being about the situation, but even if he feels his reasons for bailing are justified, deep down inside he knows that there’s still a chance you’ll get upset or be angry with him. When you take away this sort of stress or fear by again, letting him know that you’re okay with him bailing, it will make him WANT TO see you again!
If you’re interested in learning some other powerful tips for texting the guy you’re into, then be sure to check out my free video by clicking here. In it I cover a bunch of different scenarios, so be sure to check it out for all of your texting questions and needs!
Now, as for the actual message you’ll be sending him when it bails, it’s composed of three parts.
The first part lets him know that it’s fine he’s cancelling on you; the second part tells him you’re busy for the next few days, and the third part wishes him well.
So then, when you text him after he bails on you, your message should read something along the lines of:
“Hey, that’s okay, I understand you’re busy. I also have a lot going on these next few days, but if you want to catch up this weekend I’m available. I hope you have a good night!”
If he gives you a specific reason for not being able to see you, then you can incorporate it into your message. For this example, let’s say he tells you he can’t make it because he forgot he about a surprise party for his uncle. Here you’d say:
“No worries! I hope the party goes well. I have a lot going on this week, but maybe we can catch up in a few days. Have a great night!”
I hope you found it helpful. As I mentioned earlier if you’d like to learn more texting tips then check out my other free video by clicking here.