The things you can do to attract men are countless. From flirting and dressing seductively, to stringing him along with a game of hard to get, all of these things are bound to get his attention.
What if I told you though that the most effective way to attract men actually has little to do with how you treat them, and SO much more with your own… wait for it… happiness.
As I already mentioned, today I want to talk about the real secret behind attracting men, and that’s being a genuinely happy person.
Now I know that this sounds a bit odd, and you may be questioning how or why this ranks above things like beauty or intelligence, but the reasons why happiness is so attractive to men are these:
First is because happiness is contagious.
Think about how tough it is to be in a down or bad mood when you’re around someone who’s radiating bliss. It’s pretty hard, right?
Well, the same goes for men. If you’re always in a good mood then it’s not only going to start to rub off on him, but once it does on a regular basis he’ll start to associate his happiness with you. You’ll be the one he can bank on brightening his day.
Second is because happiness is youthful.
Men are attracted to women who see the light side of life, and don’t take themselves too seriously. Like you wouldn’t be drawn to someone who seemed overly stern or who always pointed out the negative, neither do men.
By being happy you’ll be able to show him your playful, light-hearted side, and that’s something every man desires in a partner.
And the third reason why men are attracted to happy women is because they enjoy being around them.
There’s no denying that there’s enough negativity in the world as is, so if you can be his little escape and offer him a pleasant experience every and any time he’s around you, well he’s not going to want to give that up.
Being the reason he smiles on a regular basis and the person he looks forward to seeing will build up an attraction in him like no other.
Now with those pointers in mind, it’s important that you actually find ways to BE happy. Sure, you can fake it, but it’ll only be a matter of time until your true colours shine through and he realizes that you’re not the happy woman he thought you were.
That’s not to say you can’t fake it in the beginning through, just as long as you’re making an attempt to genuinely become happier. In this case it’s an example of the classic “fake it til you make it.”
So, to get you started ask yourself this: Am I happy? I know it sounds silly but recognizing this is the first step in the right direction. And it’s totally okay if you’re not happy right now, what’s important is that you make changes to improve your mood.
If you do need to work on your happiness you can do so by making a list of all of the things that make you feel good, the things that would make you feel good, and some goals for yourself. For instance, if seeing your girlfriends gets your dopamine pumping then make a point to do so on a regular basis, and stick to it. If taking a yoga class would make you feel good, then make time for it in your schedule. If there are things you’ve been putting off doing that you know would make you feel good to accomplish, then get on it!
Making these little adjustments to your routine will have a huge impact, and it won’t be long before you find yourself happier than you’ve ever been.
If you’re interested in learning some powerful tips for improving your happiness in ways that will pay off in your love life then visit Amy's site and watch the video presentation.
Okay, so once you spend some time focusing on you and making adjustments to increase your happiness, how can you show the guy you’re into that you’re a happy person?
Well, believe it or not, it’s actually pretty easy. Simply make a point to keep your words positive, to smile lots and don’t be afraid to laugh. Be sure that your body language is upbeat and open, and make yourself approachable.
Best of all, if you do this enough it won’t be long until this is your natural state of being.
We hope you found it helpful. If you have any questions about what we covered here please feel free to post those in the comments section below, along with any other feedback you may have.
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