So you want to text your crush. Get ready to obsess over the perfect text for an hour, accidentally use a heart emoji and don’t forget to glue your phone to your palm while you’re waiting for that text back. But what if there was a better way? I’m going to show you how to text your crush and stay sane at the same time!
Do use emojis
This one is always hotly debated. But the truth is emojis are fair game. Don’t use them in every text or you could look a little superficial but a well-placed emoji can do a lot to bring fun and life to your messages.
Don’t double message
It’s okay to send him a couple messages at the same time but don’t send a message, wait for him to respond for ten minutes, or twenty, or two hours, and then send another message.
Do have something to talk about
If you’re messaging him out of the blue, it’s important to have a topic you want to talk about. Instead of saying “what’s up?” ask him about something you know he’s interested in.
Don’t send nudes
There’s nothing wrong with sending a nude or a sexy pic now and again but I’d save it for when you two are actually going out. Otherwise he could get the wrong idea about what you’re looking for.
Do ask a question
Don’t know what to say? Good. Ask a question. Questions are a great way to get to know him and if you start with a question then it gets the conversation rolling without you having to know exactly what to say.
Don’t play games
There are plenty of dating coaches that will tell you to wait a certain amount of time before messaging a guy back or to keep your messages under a certain number of words or make up a fake story. I think that’s total BS.
Do stop checking your phone
It’s easy to get wrapped up in texting.Think of all the times that you’ve been waiting for a message back, going out of your mind and when you finally got it, it turned out to be they were just busy. Keep this in mind. Send messages and then forget about your phone.
If you move too fast you can find out where he got the scar on his knee before you’ve ever even met in person. Put down the phone once in a while so this thing doesn’t lose steam. Save something for the first date. You’ll be glad you did.
Do use exclamation points
Like emojis, a well placed exclamation point can turn a boring text into an exciting one. Exclamation points indicate that you’re excited to talk to him. Don’t overdo it but do use them here and there.
We all know what difference a simple exclamation point makes!! It’s still not that exciting but if you got such a message you’d be more likely to respond because it seems like they’re happy to hear from you.
The shorter the message, the more important spelling is. This isn’t about being an english expert. But you don’t want to come across as a dummy. If you know you’re bad with spelling, just be careful and look up any word you’re not sure about. Especially early on, a bunch of spelling mistakes is a huge red flag for a lot of guys. Spell check is your friend here.
Do reread your message before you send it
Not only will this prevent spelling mistakes. It will also make you realize when what you’re about to send makes no sense. Think about it. When you get a text or a tinder message from a guy and you can’t figure out what he’s trying to say, do you want to answer? No way.
That second look can be the difference between an idiot and a stone cold fox.
Don’t freak out
Remember that talking to someone you like is supposed to be fun. Sure, it can be stressful but if you’re tearing your hair out and going out of your mind, it’s not worth it. Remember that even if he completely ghosts you, it really doesn’t matter. Any guy who is that rude isn’t worth your time. Plus, if you’ve followed my tips to this point, you don’t have to worry that you’ve said anything super embarrassing.
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And that’s it. Remember, these are guidelines but they really are a great place to start. So before you hit send, make sure you aren’t breaking any of these rules and you’ll be good to go. What’s your favourite text to send out of the blue? You up?