Couples can become so wrapped up in each other's lives that they neglect their own circle of friends. When you have no friends other than your partner, you are limited in what you will do.
For instance, it is not possible for your partner to share all of your interests. Not many men want to discuss the latest scrapbooking patterns. Men are more likely to enjoy activities that involve the great outdoors. It's nice to have a buddy who will go with you to the latest Bruce Springsteen concert when she'd prefer not to go.
Women tend to need to see friends frequently. It is not uncommon for women to get together to shop, have children's play groups, or have lunch. A woman may see or talk on the phone with her best friend on a daily basis.
Men tend to need to see their buddies less frequently. A guy might consider his best friend to be someone he sees three times a year. But his friend is someone who he can count on when he needs him. A man's best friend may be someone he goes camping with every spring and sees a couple of times for lunch during the year.
Additionally, friends provide a stress release valve. When you have to be everything to your partner, you can feel overwhelmed. When your partner has someone who he or she can talk to about both daily life and particular interests, there is not as much pressure for you to be everything for him or her.
Even when you are 'best friends' with your partner, develop a circle of friends who can support you in other ways. Your marriage will be stronger for it.
Talk to Your Partner Every Day
When you first fell in love, you probably couldn't imagine that there was a time when you wouldn't talk to the person every single day. But, now even though you live together, and sometimes you can find no time to have a conversation.
One of the keys to keeping romance alive is to have time every day when you can talk. Asking him to pick up a gallon of milk on the way home doesn't count. You should set aside at least fifteen minutes a day to have a real conversation.
If you don't have children, making a point of having a sit down dinner each evening can be an excellent way to connect. If first thing in the morning works better for you, have a sit down breakfast.
If you do have children present at meals, taking a walk every day after dinner not only lets you have a chance to chat, but you also get a little exercise!
At the very least, get together at the end of the day and spend a few minutes in bed making pillow talk before one or both of you goes to sleep.
It is important to have a few minutes every day when you know you are going to be able to connect to your partner.
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