Dealing with break up heartache is something everyone would rather not have to do in their lifetime. It is a painful process and you feel as if someone you thought loved you has now ripped your heart right out of your chest. Even if you knew it was coming you still need time to deal with it. Learning to be without that one person who has been around for so long takes time.
There are things you can do and steps you can take to make things better for yourself.
You may feel like you just want to be alone for a while. Go ahead, be alone. Tell family and friends you are going to take a couple of days, or so, to just cry it out and think about things. This is a step that can be good for you to take as long as it is only for a couple of days. You want to be careful not to make a habit of it. Make a plan to have one of your friends call you or stop by after a day to make sure everything is going ok.
During your time alone you are going to want to think about the reasons you are now dealing with break up heartache. You know the two of you had not been getting along lately but you will wonder if there was something you could have done differently to keep the two of you together. This is normal after a break up. Try not to dwell on this though because now the important thing is getting over the break up and getting on with your life.
During your couple of days of being alone you can do some things, healthy things, to start making a new life for yourself like boxing up all of the things that remind you of the other person and putting them away in the attic or garage or even a storage unit depending on the amount of stuff the two of you collected.
Also, learn to write down how you feel about everything. Doing this will help put things into perspective and help sort out your feelings. Then you have it to refer back to if and when you need it. In the long run doing this will help you heal.
When your couple of days of solitude are over, call one, or all, of your friends and get out of the house for awhile. Go to lunch, or go shopping, or go to the park and just talk. The fresh air will do you good and so will making contact with them. Your friends will have worried about you and having contact will put their minds at ease also.
After a break up you will feel as though you are unlovable. Getting in touch with friends after a couple of days will show you that they still love you and are there for you to lean on when dealing with break up heartache.
Did you know a part of your ex will always want you back? He might even be thinking about you right now and needs one specific thing to tip the scales.