When faced with cheating in a relationship the initial reaction is often to believe that you should leave. But is this the right thing to do? Well the answer depends on a number of factors. Is this the first time your partner has cheated? Was it a one night stand or a full blown affair? Have you been together long? Do you have children together?
Lets look at these factors individually:
Is this the first time? If it is the first time your partner has cheated, it doesn't mean that he or she will do it again nor does it mean that you should call time on your relationship. You need to find out why they cheated? Was it simply too much alcohol and the opportunity arose (no pun intended!)? Or was it planned i.e. did your partner agree to meet this other person at a hotel for sex? For e.g. if you man searched for something like escort girl paris in his phone, then most probably this was planned and not something like those "did it in the moment" things.
Depending on the circumstances involved, you could see this episode of cheating as a cry for help in your relationship. Maybe you have been ignoring your partner. Perhaps not on purpose but sometimes we forget that our significant others have feelings too and can get hurt if we do not spend time with them. So why not sit down and have a chat and explore the future that both of you are hoping for before making any hasty decisions. If you want some help in dealing with your emotions at this difficult time, I would recommend reading The Magic Of Making Up. It has helped countless couples resolve similar situations and who knows what benefits you may get from reading it.
Was it a one night stand or a full blown affair? People often don't understand the emotional damage an affair can inflict on the non cheating spouse. It is one thing to have sex with a stranger but when you have an affair, by definition you are sharing not just sex but your life with this other person. Often you will hear the partner saying they could live with the sex but what they have been unable to deal with is the lies and deceit a full affair entails.
If your partner is a full blown cheat i.e. this is not the first time but simply another notch on his or her bed board, then it may be time to call it quits. Only you can decide what you are prepared to accept but a serial cheater will never change no matter how much they protest otherwise.
If you have only just met and your partner has cheated already, this doesn't bode well for your future. But if you have been together for years, and this is the first cheating episode, it may just be a sign that things have gone stale between you and need some work.
If you have children together, you need to think extra hard about calling time on your relationship. Kids can survive in one parent households but they thrive when they have two happy parents sharing the home. So for the sake of them, see can you work out your differences and hopefully this is the last time you will have to deal with cheating in a relationship.
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