You can’t get to know someone without asking questions. But did you know that there are some questions that will actually drive guys away? That’s because they reveal things about yourself that are red flags. They can make you look jealous, possessive, or cruel, no matter what your intentions are. Then there are the questions that you don’t want to know the answer to. I’m going to tell you all the questions you should never ask a guy you like, if you want him to like you too.
There are a few questions that turn guys off completely and make them run the other way.
These 5 questions are a mix of ones that you shouldn’t ask guys you barely know, have just started seeing, or are in a relationship with. You won’t expect number five.
First off “Am I prettier than blank”
You’ve heard it a million times: you shouldn’t compare yourself to other people. You also shouldn’t ask your boyfriend to. You’re putting him in a weird position.
Remember, there are women out there that are pretty for a living. But he’s chosen to be with you.
You know he’s attracted to you. Let that be enough.
It stinks of desperation and low self esteem. Any guy who is worth having around will say you’re prettier than any supermodel but a smart guy will also see that question for what it is: insecurity.
TWO: Would you still love me if . . .?
Obviously if love is on the table this is a relationship you’re pretty invested in. You feel comfortable together and so you’re wanting to dive deeper into the limits of his love. STOP. Asking hypothetical questions is asking for disaster.
Don’t get all bent out of shape about something that’s not real. Focus on what’s real and right in front of your face.
Plus, it doesn’t really matter what he answers here. He can say that he’d still love you if you were 700 pounds, a serial killer, or stole his identity. It’s not going to make you feel better. All you’ve done is make yourself look insecure and put doubts in his head. Instead, ask yourself why you’re worried about these things. You might be surprised by the answer.
THREE: Why didn’t you call me?
So you’ve been on a couple good dates and he said he’d call you but he hasn’t. You let it stew for a few days, then a week. Eventually you can’t take it anymore and you send a text like this
“why didn’t you call me?”
But to him, it looks like THIS:
“WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL ME!?”
Big mistake. You need to look at it from his perspective. Even if you don’t mean it this way, it can seem pretty accusatory. If he’s on the fence, this might be all it takes to scare him off. Sometimes people just get busy. You don’t want him to think you’ve just been waiting by the phone (even if you have).
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FOUR: How many people have you been with?
This one isn’t necessarily off limits. It’s fine for couples to talk about their sexual histories. It can even be a fun, sexy way to get to know one another. But you need to make sure that it’s something you want to know. Plenty of women I know have had their world rocked by a guy revealing he’s had sex with way more women than they thought, or way less.
Think about how you’d feel if you found out that he’d only been with one other person before you. Or what if he says he’s been with a hundred women? If either of these ideas freak you out, then maybe hold off on this question. Also, make sure you’re prepared to answer this question if he asks it.
The truth is sex isn’t a numbers game at all, but for some people, numbers can be a turnoff—especially those of us who hate math,
FIVE: Do you believe in soul mates?
This one can be stickier than you’d think. I’ve seen some pretty big fights over the idea of “true love” and it’s just sad.
True love, soulmates and fate mean different things to different people. His answer to this question says more about his own personal worldview than it does about his feelings towards you.
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