In this post, I’ll be sharing 4 ways to stop a divorce and repair your marriage while you still can. I’m going to keep this as brief as possible, so you really have no reason not to read it all the end.
Ok, let’s dive straight into it, starting with the first step towards saving your marriage.
1.) Accept that your marriage is in crisis.
Now, here’s the good news, folks: if you’re reading this article, then you’ve already at least partly accomplished this first step. In most cases, a relationship that’s failing is not going to fix itself, so the first key to fixing things is to accept that the marriage is failing and that you need to take action to repair it. This can actually be a difficult thing to recognize when it’s happening in your own relationship, but once you acknowledge the challenging situation you’re facing, you can then begin to work on undoing the damage and breaking out of the negative cycles in the marriage that have led you to this point.
2.) Use the “Dispute Defusing System” to prevent further damage.
Many couples facing a marriage crisis arrive at this point because of ongoing toxic, attraction-killing arguments. This isn’t the case 100% of the time -- sometimes marital problems can arise out of a single incident like cheating -- but usually ongoing bickering and arguments are a major problem
Solving the underlying issues that lead to major disagreements can take time and be very difficult, but you can do a number of simple things that will ensure these arguments don’t become toxic or cause any further damage to your marriage. I’ve developed a series of easily-implemented techniques and tricks, which I call the Dispute Defusing System, that will either prevent an argument from starting or ensure things don’t get out of hand and spiral into attraction-killing screaming matches that cause permanent damage to your relationship.
I’m not going to be able to cover the Dispute Defusing system in full here in this article, but please head to this link and watch my full tutorial presentation. In that video I explain more about the Dispute Defusing system and share several of the most effective tactics. Again, to watch the full tutorial video for free, just click here.
Here’s just one quick example technique you can implement immediately, though. Next time you have a complaint or issue to bring up to your spouse, make sure you avoid using the word “you” and instead phrase your concern with the word “I”... so for example, don’t say to your partner, “you’re always leaving dirty dishes in the kitchen sink, why can’t you just put them in the dishwasher?? ”... instead, you could phrase the same concern more along the lines of “I noticed there’s often dishes left in the sink, which I find frustrating… can we both try to put dirty dishes in the dishwasher instead of leaving them in the sink?”
It’s a subtle change, but you’d be shocked at how small tweaks to your own behaviour can help avoid toxic arguments and slowly improve the connection with your spouse.
3.) Share positive, fun experiences with your partner.
Here’s another tip that might sound a bit silly at first, but that can make a huge difference to the health of your marriage.
Think about the early days of your relationship… you and your spouse were probably excited to spend time together, and most of your time spent together was filled with positive, fun, and happy shared memories. Sure, there were likely some disagreements from time to time, but the ratio of “positive” to “negative” time spent together was heavily tilted towards the positive.
4.) Get some coaching help to save your marriage.
Whether you’ve already tried marriage counseling or not, there are no better ways to improve the chances of repairing your marriage than reaching out to a professional counselor for help.
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